
Back when Ryan was in law school and I just had Brooklyn and Emma in tow, I was at a lunch with a bunch of friends and we were talking about which child it was that threw us for a loop.
Was it the first kid? Maybe the 2nd? What about numbers 3 and 4?
At the time, two was about doing me in. So, that was my answer.
Two was definitely harder than just one.
One of the girls there had three kids, all under the age of 4, and she adamantly declared that the first kid was by far the hardest.
I laughed, thinking, yeah right. Having one kid is a piece of cake.

Now, looking back on that day I'm beginning to see the truth in my friend's answer.
All growing up I always knew I wanted to be a mom. I just assumed that was the roll I was going to take on. I planned on going to college and getting my degree, but motherhood was the path for me. No doubts about it.
Time marched on, I met and married Ryan, and soon we had Brooklyn on the way.
There was so much anticipation as we got closer to her arrival. I knew I was going to be the best mom in the world. I had been waiting for this day for years, I even had a degree in Early Childhood Education. I was set!
When she arrived I couldn't believe she was mine. She was so tiny, and so perfect. I was in that newborn trance, that honeymoon phase where you just want to sit all day soaking in that new baby smell as they lay on your shoulder and sleep for hours and hours.
I love those moments.
But....eventually reality set in and having that baby ROCKED MY WORLD.
In a great way, yes.
But it turned me upside down.
Everything I thought I knew about babies went right out the window.
My days of sleeping in on the weekends, laying in bed reading all day, running a quick errand to the store by myself....
GONE.
It was a HUGE adjustment. Suddenly I had this tiny little human that depended on me day and night. Sometimes moreso at night, which turned me into a zombie during the day.
And it was HARD. No one told me how hard motherhood was going to be. No one mentioned the lovely side effects of nursing, or the long long nights, or the early mornings, or the non-stop feedings. Don't even get me started on the diapers.
I honestly felt like I was so high strung in those days. I worried about this and that. I called the pediatrician the second her fever went over 99 degrees, I worked with her daily on rolling over, made sure she got plenty of tummy time, and my life revolved around her very set schedule.

The other day I ran across this book that my friend gave me for my birthday this past October, and the title struck me.
I feel, after almost 8 years, that I am finally growing into this roll that I always wanted.
Because motherhood is NOT easy.
Wonderful, amazing, like nothing else in this world - YES!
But, easy. Definitely not.
So as I sat on the floor Sunday, surrounded by a mess of toys, and a half-naked toddler playing with her sisters' toys, I was able to marvel at how amazingly lucky I am. Gone are the days of new motherhood, gone are my clean shirts, tidy house 24/7, and those precious days I got to actually read a book. Now, I roll with the punches, clean up after they're in bed, but most importantly I try and sit back and laugh with the funny things Lily does that otherwise would have sent me over the edge 7 years ago.
Sure, having each of my girls rocked my world a little, and adding one more just adds to the chaos. But I will admit, my friend was right. That first kid IS the hardest.

This isn't to say that life with three and another on the way is all sunshine and roses. I'd be fooling you and myself if that were the case. Motherhood is different for the different stages of life these little ones happen to be in at the time. I just wish I could go back in time and tell the me in 2004 to just relax because one day I'll grow into this thing called Motherhood. Step by step I'm getting it, and with each new baby it gets a little bit easier, and a lot more enjoyable.